![]() ![]() A few days ago, my brother made a joke about the takeout he bought and exclaimed that “Beggars cannot choose- so eat.” I told him afterward that he needed to reframe and shift that mental paradigm and sent him some podcast tracks about this topic (knowing that he is not a visual learner and will not enjoy reading his wordsmith sister’s article). Recently it occurred to me that perhaps my family upbringing has influenced a lot of the lack of mental paradigms that were deep-seated within us that it felt indifferent and almost identifying. I always felt I had a pretty good middle-class family upbringing in Singapore. I was not always self-aware and mindful to my thoughts, emotions, others, my actions and my environment- like I am now. Have you got the answer if your mind frames a scarcity or an abundance mindset? It is taking the driver’s seat of our car instead of taking the back seat and letting someone else drives it. An abundance mindset nurtures growth, will and presence and still welcome change. But more often this lack is not in the lack of knowledge, strengths but the lack of will, the lack of openness towards change. In short, the scarcity mindset equates to lack. In relationships, a scarcity mindset may make you feel like you need someone else to complete you. It impedes one to feel hopeful or to envision a life full of possibilities. This mindset can be driven by fear and anxiety. It is living for the future and not the present moment. A scarcity mindset is having a belief that you need more to live a happy and fulfilled life. He contrasted it with the “scarcity mindset ”, which is founded on the idea that, when you have a scarcity mentality, you have a hard time being genuinely happy for the success of other people. In 1989 bestseller of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, author Stephen Covey conceived the famous phrases of “Abundance Mentality” and “Scarcity Mentality.” In simplistic terms, he defined the “abundance mindset” as a concept in which a person believes there are enough resources and successes to share with others. Sometimes we hold the best intentions for the ones we love but we unconsciously also share our limiting beliefs to them. Or their circumstances then really limited their choices and the lack chose them- they do not want you to go through their struggles too. And they probably had the same said to them when they were your age. ![]() Who said that to you? Whoever said that there was only one absolute paved path in life that entails success?Īs you probably are aware by now, these limiting beliefs come from our society and mostly from the people closest to us. Since you were young, were you expected to finish college, get to University, get a good enough job and work for a good-enough company, pay of your loan, get insurance, find a husband/wife, get a mortgage, have a family, plan for retirement? This way of hard-work is the way to go for success in life? Consider the following example below and ask yourself if it resonates with you: These self-limiting beliefs are untrue and unfactual but we have seeded them in our mind, convincing ourselves they are true. They are a collection of opinions/habits that we latch onto because of what had happened to us or the people close to us. It is also known as a specific set of limiting beliefs that have evolved from your life experiences and past events. What beliefs are you framing in your mind? Are you in the scarcity or are you in the abundance mindset?Ī mental paradigm is defined as a multitude of habits within your subconscious mind. Now do you wonder what mindset and mental paradigms are you holding onto right now? The words that resonate with an abundance mindset include expansion, empowerment, agility, adaption, prosperity, happiness, inner peace, love, light and flow. ![]() For me, the words that resonate with a scarcity mindset include fear, limitation, lack, inflexibility, disempowerment, insecurity, condescension and jealousy. ![]()
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